In-Home Separation, One Year Point

[cat04]

Cat04, I'm trying to figure out what you're looking for from me.

I am not really looking for anything. I want you to do the looking. I can’t fix you, I can only fix me. If my questions make you think, then that is good.

I am sorry that you are not doing well. How do you propose to change that?

Honestly, I could and have thought about pulling your responses apart piece by piece but it all boils down to a few questions…

I feel like maybe I know a little bit more about A after reading about your likes and dislikes, although I see a lot of “safe”, “mom/wife appropriate” responses. Not that those are bad…they aren’t.

Did those things originate from your childhood and young adult hood, or since your M/R began?

Is there anything a little risky that you do, did, want to do, say like hang glide, watch scary movies, etc…stuff that you maybe don’t do because you have children and a husband and it doesn’t necessarily fit into the roles you live?

Do you see that for three posts, you said almost nothing about him? But a ton about yourself...

Then you spent an entire therapy session talking about your H, his behaviors, instead of learning more about A and your roles and faults and good things in the M...

I guess maybe I am looking for something. I'm looking for Adinva...