Well some progress, at last!! When i went to see H over the holidays, we discussed in length his depression. It was agreed that our first proirity was to get this undercontrol. H asked me to help him with looking at treatment options and i spent a very frustrating day yesterday trying to get information about what is available. Finally it seems i may have got on to the right people! For those of you that are familar with my sitch, you may remember that my H's treating psycharist told him, in my presence, that 'Not everyone is supposed to be married and that my H was one of these people!' This doctor encouraged H to leave me and was very counter productive! Oh yes, I'm still very angry about this man and the damage he caused. Anyway, the lady i spoke to today had some very interesting things to say about this doctor and that she wasn't surprised at his poor treatment, that he has a very bad rep. and that her team wouldn't touch him with a barge pole.
She was able to give me the name and number of a good treating doctor and described how the team she works for operate. It is almost to good to be true. They operate under the princples i was looking for and have all the services that we need!!! This is such a relief! One less thing to worry about!
I just had to share this with you all. I know that WAS leave for a varity of reasons, but i really believe that this doctor and the way he used his influence on a vulernable person, was the catalist for my H taking this action. I know that we did have our problems, but they where ordinary life stuff, not something to break up a M over. H openly admits that he was happy at least 90% of the time and he now says that there was nothing really wrong or missing in our M, that the problem was within himself and the way depression had/has caused to thinking to be less than rational.
Today, i feeling very optimistic and confident that all will be well!!
My mantra is one step at a time, and this is what is happening!
