OK, sandi, I responded to your alike and different idea here:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2247129

- All for the kids -
Me:34, W:35
M:7, T:13
S6, D3 + my D15 from previous marriage
July 2011 "I think I need a separation"
W filed D September
Currently living apart - she has the house, I rent a room