How is she with email? I'm wondering if you can email her the list the next day or follow up with a phone call. Then at least she's not getting the comfort of having you at home when she gets home from a days work telling her everything and in her mind getting to talk about her problems.
Maybe you should stop the movie nights as well. I know you want to spend as much with the kids as possible but it shouldn't be joint time with her.
I'm only this because I was a WAW and everything was great when I had him to do all the stuff I wanted and got the benefits of a quasi spouse (ie he was there to talk, to give me advice, to support me emotionally, etc) and I was still free to do all the stuff I wanted.
Also if she starts going off path in the convo just say "sorry, but can I tell you this stuff because I've got something to do/have to be up early tomorrow/meeting someone." Something to say hey, I've got a life outside of being a dad.
