[quote=bustorama]By the way, even as you reject the spouse that is having an A on you, you need to come to a DEEP understanding of your role in the breakdown of your M. What behaviors of yours need to be addressed with 180s changes. You want to revise these no matter what, not in order to get your spouse back (that would be a nice side effect), but because it's the right thing to do for yourself and future relationships (with your WAS or someone else).
[color:#CC0000]just to clarify for me, bustorama may I assume you mean "repair" when you say "revise", right? I don't mean to quibble with this word but it's b/c the walk away spouses and sometimes the left behind spouses REVISE or rewrite their marital history,
Yes, thanks for the clarification. I definitely intended to communicate revise from the point of view of 'TO RECOGNIZE YOUR MISTAKES AND THEN TO CORRECT/FIX/REPAIR', not from the point of view of 'REVISIONIST HISTORY'.
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you already know the pain of simply imagining them together "gloating" (highly unlikely, btw)
I'd like to echo what 25 said, here. Even when I was in my fog and in online EA's and crazily self-justifying my behavior and apparently happy on the outside, I STILL had so much self-loathing about what I was doing. There was absolutely no gloating and alot of conflict and turmoil.
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