So the weekend was quite a roller coaster to say the least. Not only was it S17's prom but it was STBX weekend in the home. I stayed at the boat so I could be nearby for prom festivities (parade, etc)
He arrived Friday while the kids were finalizing their float. I left after work and he said he had stopped at the boat to "get things ready" I wasn't sure what that meant and he said "you'll see"
When I got there, he had left me a bottle of wine and a card. The card said he missed me, I have been his best friend for more than half his life and he loves me. More manipulation
Apparently earlier in the day he was talking with a mutual friend and saying "Autumn is jumping the gun, rushing this divorce, it is premature, etc" Friend said "well didn't you cheat on her" and he admitted to it. Friend felt obligated to tell me this. Not sure what I needed that for but felt like another punch in the gut.
Prom went well and we got along for the kids. I stayed with my friends and had S15 with me. He was driving the float
S15 wanted to see his girlfriend Saturday night and since STBX was drinking quite a bit, I agreed to drive him to and from. I dropped him off at my house and went back to the boat. So STBX was alone in the house with no kids, doesn't make any sense to me. Frustrating that I have to leave, but kids made it clear that they don't want to go to the house he lives in. Not until he has a place of his own, and he is in no hurry to do that, ugh
Sunday he was supposed to have S15 until 6pm. S17 went to the beach for a few days with friends after prom. I got a text at 11am saying that he was leaving and S15 was sleeping in. Odd
So I went home and spent the day with S15. Around 8, I texted him about a bill and said S15 was not doing anything if he wanted to connect since they had not all day. He said "i will see him monday at baseball, i had some drinks"
Sent a few odd, short texts to me.
Around 11 after no contact he sent a long text saying "sorry for being short earlier, was a rough day/night. You don't understand how hard it is for me to leave the house and the kids like that"
Clearly if that were true he wouldn't have left at 11am. The short texts meant he wasn't alone and now he was sending stupid excuses to cover
I said "who you are with is none of my business, but ignoring your child is"
He proceeded to call me from the house phone ..to prove where he was I am sure. I told him that I had nothing to say, he is a liar and manipulative and there is nothing to say to him.
This morning I emailed "we will only speak of finances and kids, nothing else. You have your trusted friends for feelings discussions, as do I. We cannot be that for one another."
