Yesterday I was taking the kids to the park & then round to my Mums for a couple of hours & my W was going out with her Mum & Dad to get some new shoes for work. The day before I had tidied up & my W couldn't find one of her shoes, she was really snappy & short, just being a spoilt little brat.
That money I made sorting the clothes out, she took it with her to get shoes, so no ice cream money for us. But I thought it doesn't matter, we'll go to my Mum's and they can have ice cream there. When W was saying bye to the kids in the car my little girl was asking why we couldn't get ice cream at the park, I just said money's tight kids, we'll get one at Nan's. My W then says if you want money just ask. She said it really horrible and to try & make me feel small. So I thought enough is enough of this crap and said, we don't need any money and don't speak to me like that again, and gave her a don't mess with me stare. She slammed the door & off we went in our separate directions.
20 minutes later I get a text message of her appologizing for how she behaved and spoke to me. Wow!! that was a big freaking deal for me, her apologizing for something & apologizing first when we'd had an argument. She was being a turd & I stood up for myself & called her on it, i wasn't nasty or anything, just really firm.
I also think that the penny has dropped for me, I need to stand up for myself more often & not let this sort of stuff slide all the time. My W showed me more respect last night & was much more outgoing & nicer = what sandi2 & Adinva & YC have been saying, be strong and confident, not weak & a push over.
By the way, I have been really good on the ML front, because I wanted to make sure that my W wasn't just appeasing me with sex. I haven't initiated anything & we haven't ML for nearly a month. A lot of that though has been because of the ridiculously late nights doing UNI work. The flirting was there last night, from both sides, but I'm not going to push it, it'll happen on it's own soon enough (hopefully tonight though.. a month without ML is too long!! LOL) ;-)
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
