Wife says it's to far gone

[25yearsmlc]

I've tried taking my ring off for a day & I wasn't ready, so I put it straight back on the next day. I think it's more of a powerful for the LBS to keep wearing their ring than to stop wearing it. It shows that you are still commited to the R and is a constant reminder to the WAS that you are married to them, every time they notice it (which we can only speculate on the frequency of that chestnut).

I think it's just good old fashioned reverse psychology, the WAS wants to forget they are M and wants the LBS to notice they aren't wearing the ring; whereas the LBS wants to remind the WAS that they are M and wants the WAS to notice they are wearing the ring.

Bill

sorry but i think this just smacks of more manipulating and trying to get a reaction out of them.

If it were ONLY about you feeling your commitment and making a statement to YOURSELF that's one thing.

but clearly your main goal is getting a reaction FROM Her or guilting her and there is a ton of speculative mind reading about her so, I think it's a waste of energy.

If the other WAS spouse wants to act as if THEY are not married, I see nothing wrong with the LBSer removing their ring to show their acceptance of it

(b/c continuing to wear the ring is resistance, and one could argue that the more you resist, the more they persist---)

and the more you challenge their choices

the more you force them to defend them.

If you choose to wear your ring out of respect for the vows YOU made - so be it. I get that.

But imo, you are attaching expectations AND judgement to your choice (contrasting it w/hers) and trying to guilt her or get a reaction from her.

From what I"ve seen, that will backfire if it has any result at all.