I just want to be friends...Pt2

[breakdownbill]

Hi Yankee

Thanks for being so understanding about your project.

Just been reading up on your developments & thought I might just throw in some other possible angles to look at what's been happening recently.

A week later he suggested he come over. It was a truly wonderful, long passionate night. Exactly what I wanted. He left afterwards - which I was perfectly comfortable with.

Hey Yankee, regardless of what is / has been cycling in your sitch you connected with your H physically & apart from it being wonderful for you, it will have meant a lot to your H as well. That will have got him thinking about you when you guys aren't together IMO.

However, the last time he was here he was like, "We're not even together..." and then 2 hours later, we are having S again. He constantly puts up barriers to keep himself safe and distant I realise.

There's nothing new here if you look at it for what it is, he's still unsure about commitment, got his own resentment issues, but... he came back for more Yankee, despite his protests. He still desires you, which means he isn't fully detached and ready to move on either.

Now, the strange thing is that he got in touch with my parents to have dinner with them. Ages ago he told me he wanted to do that to 'clear his name' seeing as he was the one who left and he wanted to put across his side of the story to preserve his reputation. He hates being seen as the bad guy.

OK... now he's telling you that's his motivation for wanting to have dinner with your parents...but he'll be fishing for information about you Yankee. There will be stuff that he wants to find out about you. Does she talk about me? What's she been up to? Does she seem happy without me? and the questions he really wants to ask but probably won't, Do you think we can get past this and get back together? Do you guys hate me for my part in all this?

Now he might not ask any of these questions, but these are some possible things that will be floating around inside his head. I don't think his agenda is solely to clear his name, no matter what he is saying.

I'll ask you another question Yankee... If he was done why would he bother?

This is still far from over, not matter which way it goes.

Hang in there YC

Bill