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[bustorama]

By the way, even as you reject the spouse that is having an A on you, you need to come to a DEEP understanding of your role in the breakdown of your M. What behaviors of yours need to be addressed with 180s changes. You want to revise these no matter what, not in order to get your spouse back (that would be a nice side effect), but because it's the right thing to do for yourself and future relationships (with your WAS or someone else).

Also, the A is not justified even if you have not been the best spouse, don't blame yourself for it, your WAS could have talked to you about his unhappiness/issues rather than going outside the M.