If you read my intro, you will notice that my W woke ME up from my apathetic behavior towards our R by dropping the bomb on me.
Years later, she, in turn, "woke up" and decided to pursue our R again after *I* dropped *my* final bombs on her (I'm divorcing you and won't be a part of your life at all anymore).
See the pattern? You will see it in every thread. If there is any love/attraction left in the R, he/she who cares least about the R will be the one that is pursued.
You need to get "ahead" of your WAS on the detachment curve. On the "not caring" about the R or seeing the other spouse curve. That is the essence of the LRT.
You do this by focusing on yourself and your kid. By not only agreeing to, but rather pursuing/initiating/leading/welcoming the separation of your lives. Jumpstarting your own separate existence.
By not begging him not to have an A or hoping he will stop his A. But rather by REJECTING a spouse that has an A on you. You're worth so much more than that Begin living that reality, and you will emerge victorious, whatever your WAS does.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
Begin living that reality, and you will emerge victorious, whatever your WAS does.