Thanks for your good advice. Adinva our family sleeping started in much the same way as yours, first child was a difficult eater and it was easier for wife to have him in bed as she wanted to all feelings if she was there, so I know it wasn't done as a wall to intimacy. ML where pretty good, did make time and places and only declined in last few months but was still happening fairly regularly. Only since bomb night has our M become a no touch zone, I have on few occasions in last month given nonsexual touches W didn't recoil but seemed rather indifferent to them. On mothers day I did give her a gift I knew she had wanted, she almost cried and she gave me hug, that kinda shocked me to be honest but am not reading anything in to that. My W has never been a touchy freely person but is affectionate..
The GAL part I am struggling with between the kids schedules and all the things that need to be done at home,( keep in mind W complained that I was lazy and didn't do enough around here) how do I take time for me and let W see that I am willing and ready to carry my share at home, this is one of my 180's. I should have been doing all along and it does make me feel better to see the house and property look better.
W is still not talking about R but is talking about things that seem to include me. W wants to do some pretty major renovations around here but how do I tell her I'm not really comfortable about the the financial investment in the house if it's just gonna b sold if we can't work things out. Somehow i think W thinks she'll be able to keep house, im the financal one in R, i know she cant Seems to go against no R talk until W is ready?
I am working on me and my issues, tonight something happened that normaly would have made me angry and I would have let it be known. I just went about what needed to b done "as if" it was no problem and was pleasant and upbeat afterwards, seems I can make progress.
I hope and pray my bomb was a warning but can't and won't count on it.
M44 W42 S10 D9 S6 4/19/12 ILYBNILWY Still together
