After much thought this morning (as I lay in bed pushing ‘snooze’ again and again) it came to me why limbo land is so…murky. I think this could apply here too, Pam.

In limbo land, we’re actually working hard to prepare ourselves for two different outcomes. We’re working to bring the WASs home and secure a strong foundation for this new marriage and at the same time we’re working on detachment and keeping our ducks in a row (emotionally, financially, etc) so we don’t drown if divorce becomes our destination.

There comes this point for all of us where we start playing ‘guess the outcome’ and when we guess it will be something other than reconciliation, we get scared. When we get scared, we want to employ our defensive techniques. The forest gets darker and we begin to loose our sense of direction. Sometimes it even seems that the radio contact with the helicopter isn’t working very well and all we hear is static.

The important thing to remember is that there ARE helicopters up there that are watching us and staying on our trail. The forest is dark and that really sucks…but if we don’t want to stay in this dark part of the forest we need to move through it by focusing on the positives and not the negatives.

Remember Pam, if you keep looking backward while you’re running forward you’re going to clunk straight into many of these horrible trees. The past is exactly that…past. Gone, over, done, unchangeable. The present is in your control…remember that. Your husband is trying pretty hard and so are you. GO YOU!!! !! If you can leave the past where it belongs and if you can stop playing ‘guess the outcome’ and just trust that the right outcome will happen, I think that you’ll be juuuuuuust fine.

Cabin fever has us all twitching here in Snowville. Maybe we should brave the elements and do lunch this weekend, are you busy?

"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere." --Agnes Repplier, writer and historian