Wow...I stopped by this thread and I'm being quoted. I don't know your xW obviously but what I wonder is if this visit is satisfying her fix. She has moved on her in her words, but chose to stay with you almost assuming her entire R with you without the sex or the commitment.
Perhaps she still wants to know it's there if she ever needed/wanted it. Perhaps she missed it but wants to cake eat.
Like I've said in my posts I didn't miss it until it was gone, and it was gone gone not in a I'll always be there for you in that way all the time. If he'd dropped plans for me all the time then maybe I wouldn't have had to face "life without him for real."
But aside from wondering what's going on in her head, Rick is right you have protect you. If she's wants to be your friend then she has to be a friend to you as well. And if a friend says this isn't working for me then a good friend respects that.
So have a think about this visit and if it's left you not as stable pre visit then put your foot down regarding this summer.
