My first draft- obviously I have to take some parts (his social life) but d*mn they felt good to type out Thoughts?
Hi MIL,
Hope everything is well with you and you are enjoying this beautiful weather. Has (sick friend) heard anything back? I am hoping she is okay. I am glad to hear you had a nice trip and that you are keeping busy and sleeping better.
I am writing to you because I am not sure how to approach H and was hoping maybe you could say something to him in a way that won't upset him. He is coming by and cutting the lawn, which I appreciate, but more needs to be done than a cut every week and a half or so. The beds are all overgrown, weeds everywhere and the yard just looks like crap. I have tried to get some yard work done each weekend, but I am working every Sunday at my part time job and most Friday nights as well because I am so concerned with money, plus keeping up the inside, paying the bills, taking care of the pets and also trying to get out and do some fun things for myself to help with my emotional recovery. I've asked my dad to come one day next weekend and help me and he has said he will, but this does not seem fair as it is not his yard to maintain. My concern is that I will anger H by even mentioning it and he will push to sell the house sooner, causing us to lose money, or stop contributing as much financially.
This week he said he would be by on Sunday morning to do some things. He did not show up. I understand he is out having fun (dating as he nicely told me) and that this is helping to ease his anxiety but it is not fair that my anxiety is getting higher and higher as this is not a situation I wanted and I am feeling completely overwhelmed. I don't want to put you in the middle, as that is not fair to you, but am hoping you could mention something to him, like maybe he needs to take a full weekend day and go work on our yard. I will gladly leave why he is there, or help if he wants me to, but I simply cannot, and should not, be expected to do this all alone.
Me-32 H-31 M-1yr, 9mos/T-6.5yrs No kids, 3 pets H estranged father passes away- 8/11 Bomb- 1/15/12 Began LRT- 4/1/12
