One of my friends- who I met through my H as they were friends but we have become good friends- came to visit me this weekend. She told me she has an email drafted to my husband- has for awhile now. She asked me if she could send it. She basically told me what it says. Her and her H had similar issues a few years ago and worked things out. She talks about that and how when they had issues she reached out to people but nobody knew what to say or wanted to get involved (my H and I included- but in our defense I didn't know how bad things were until after the fact). She says she wished someone had written them an email like the one she was sending- that marriage is hard work but worth it, that we were a couple that other people admired because we were such good friends and always had fun, etc. I'm asking for advice- do I give her permission to send or ask her not to? I don't think it will change anything but it does feel good to know someone other than me wants to stand up for our marriage and what it was.
Me-32 H-31 M-1yr, 9mos/T-6.5yrs No kids, 3 pets H estranged father passes away- 8/11 Bomb- 1/15/12 Began LRT- 4/1/12
