I have been reading your posts. I am new to DB. I came here after an already long journey. I like how you handled your situation. But there is something I am really curious about from a man's point of view. You mentioned that at first you were not remorseful enough with your W, etc. How come? I am jusy tring to understand, not pry! My H had an EA which I discovered last summer and he said sorry but never tried to fix the M or R let alone felt or showed remorse or genuine regret that he hurt me.
In that time leading up until now he has not lived at home and has been adamant that he does not want me or the M (we have 2 young kids). He said the EA was over so this was not connected with that. Anyway, i did everything wrong, tried to force the R talk, pointed out how much I have changed, called, texted, etc etc. He was often angry, defensive, aloof, cold and sometimes just a downright jacka££. There were moments of softness, thats for sure. The odd time he would stay after the kids slept and have a brief chat or a drink. But he NEVER let me think he would ever change his mind. About a month ago I started to detach (before i found DB but i realise that is what I was doing by not calling just to see how he is etc), and a week ago he told me his intentions to start a full R with the OW (she has always been in the picture!). anyway, I guess i like the way you handled your story and wanted to know what you think. I think I understand the strength this journey is going to need but sometimes its just so SCARY!
I dont feel knowledgable enough to give any advice yet, certainly eveything I have done up until now has not worked. But I believe in DB and will give in to it. Nothing left to lose.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
