Few things…I don’t know how long S is going to sleep so I want to make this pretty quick and I’ll elaborate if I have the time…
Never feel like you don’t belong in this ‘club’ because your H is at home and in counseling. His physical presence dictates nothing in terms of where you are in this process. Like Betsey, I am secretly thrilled that Sting is living outside the home. I need this time of peace and solitude to figure this stuff out once and for all. Granted, I wish (and think he should be) here much more than he is…but full time? I am not there yet…and thank goodness he isn’t either. I do know that when he is ready to move home I better damn well be ready too because telling him ‘no’ again will only signal the green flag to pop up on the divorce proceedings. Strangely enough, whenever he does something that indicates he will not be home for a while it scares the crap out of me and I begin to spaz about whether he’s ever coming back again. Isn’t it a messed up world for us here in limbo land?
One I idea that I have kicked around is asking H to renew our vows before moves back in. My friend and her husband did that I and think it is a good way to restart the marriage. Now, I don’t know that I can make that a deal breaker…but I’ll think on it. You’re right, that has absolutely nothing to do with you! Back to Pam…
Quote: get out with some girlfriends and do the female bonding thing...
OOO…OOO…pick me, pick me . Honestly, Pam…I come with a toddler but any time you are feeling like you need some girl time, call me! With enough notice, I can even get a sitter most nights. And I won’t murder you…at least not with an axe! Deal?
Quote: This weekend I will make a chore chart for everyone. It is time that they all shared in some of this responsibility. I am doing no favors to anyone by running things the way I have. I have to look out for my future daughters-in-law!
May I also point out…you aren’t doing any favors for your boys either. You mentioned you are saving for their college educations, so I assume that they will be going – please tell me you aren’t planning on driving to their dorms to do the laundry!! …from experience, the roommates tend to frown upon that!
I think it is great that you worked out the counselor issue. Seriously, even though it may seem like it isn’t focusing on your marriage if you go separately (I am ASSuming that is why you didn’t want to split in C sessions to begin with) it will make everything much better in the end. GO YOU! .
Quote: Meredith, I miss ya! It's sunny out today!!!!
. Honestly, Pam…I come with a toddler but any time you are feeling like you need some girl time, call me! With enough notice, I can even get a sitter most nights. And I won’t murder you…at least not with an axe! Deal?
…from experience, the roommates tend to frown upon that!