He will be stationed at a recruiting office about 30 minutes drive from my house. There is a duality to this. On one hand I am very very happy I will have a greater chance to spend time with him and get to know his wife and my granddaughter. On the other hand I worry how they will interact with XW and if that relationship will become damaged. I am not spending much energy here at all, still it warrants mentioning. I recognize and acknowledge it is their relationship at risk.
It makes sense to me that you feel this way. The damage your xw caused affected not only you, but your children as well.
How your son chooses to deal with it will be up to him. He is entitled to his feelings and can chose whatever path he wants. I hope he looks at you and the path you have chosen.. and decides to do the same. That he sees your high road as not only the honorable option.. but the one that will bring him happiness.
I'm sure he's watching you. I'm sure he will seek your guidance.. even if he doesn't tell you.
Encourage him (but not push) to keep the relationship with his mom smooth... for his sake... and for your granddaughter's sake.
It's so awesome that he is closer though btw! Time to spoil the crap out of that grandkid pappy!!!
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
