Okay look, you do not need to post your reasoning. You don't have to convince us or explain what you're thinking and why. Not to sound rude, but unless you do it to release stress, it's not the best way of utilizing your time. We are here to support you and offer a plan of action or viewpoint that helps you to bust a divorce.
There is one thing that you could do that might shed more light on your stitch, however, and that is to describe how you and your wife are different and how the two of you are alike (at least before things started falling apart).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
