yes LIO - i'm just getting a real sense of that - HOPE - not for the marriage being saved , but for myself being saved.

i will admit i am not fully there yet, if i am to be completely brutally honest - there is still hope for the marriage to be saved by what i am doing. but also the acknowledgment that even that will pass as the main goal with time, ask go through my changes.

HB had written in one of her sermons about how she felt when they were reconciling about where she stood in the relationship with her h. that because they had gone through each of their changes, they were in a sense, independent of each other - just coming together because they wanted to, and that she was confident that if they didn't stay together they could easily continue on their own paths without it being difficult.

i suppose the short translation of achieving that state in a relationship is the concept of "i will be okay no matter what"

ithanks
zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"