Sorry one more thought...how does H become so cold and adamant ? To say he doesn't even want to try? How do all those years (known each other 23) not mean anything and how can our two kids not be enough of a reason to try and find a way to work forward? Is this because of the OW?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home