In my experience, the "happiness/success" scale that I see from people is something like this:
2b. The betrayed spouse lays down a HARD, SWIFT boundary, realizing that everyone makes mistakes, and decides that they can forgive their cheating spouse ONCE, but they've got to immediately end their affair and return and work on the marriage with them. This is usually best done in conjunction with a strong self-improvement program on the part of the betrayed/left-behind spouse, or else the wayward spouse won't see anything that they'd even WANT to return to.
Starsky
Jumping in here. Starsky, this was your approach? At what point did your SO decide that it was worth it? When did you lay down the boundaries? I'll have to go find your older topics
Me& h + S M: 13 t: 14
H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my! I'm done. 12/12
"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba
