Pam - boy, I'd suggest losing that loser of a counselor in a heartbeat if I wasn't afraid your H might view it as a negative, or be reluctant to start with a new one. What a complete wanker!
Here's a thought - since your H IS willing to go to therapy with you - would he be willing to watch or listen to the KLA tapes with you? They cover a lot of the same ground as the DB book, but a little more oriented towards couples (rather than desperate LBSs). Might do more good than your therapy with the wanker. (and by the way, for your therapist, expecting your spouse to just "know" what you want without you communicating it is an infantile view of relationships).
