Thanks UKVA, what you say about turning yourself into someone ANYONE would be a fool to leave is a very good point, one I'd forgotten - I need to start making a list of things to keep me focused! From reading other posts, I think your wife reacting negatively is a sure sign she has noticed your pulling back, and it's having an impact on her. you've done really well to keep it going for 4 weeks and not react. I think they look for, or try to provoke reactions, to try and validate their feelings. What you say about her weight loss and looking gaunt - is this a recent development?
The most important thing I need to do now is work on my self esteem - this last time with my H I've found myself thinking he's absolutely right, why would anyone want to be with me, let alone him.
I don't know about anyone else, but I find listening to certain songs really empowers and motivates me to improve my life. At the moment I'm listening to:
Tim McGraw - live like you were dying Lee Ann Womack - I hope you dance Ron pope - good day
