Hey gang!
Well, yesterday's app't was so-so. It had it's good points, it had it's bad.
My counselor is getting paid a lot of money to have me lead these sessions, I'll say that! But, it is a necessary evil (to go and pay rather than do it at home for free) because it makes H listen.
Get a load of this:
H said that he doesn't like when I ask him what he likes/wants, because then if I choose to do it for him, it isn't "real."
(translation: I am supposed to have been put on this Earth to anticipate each of his needs and feelings, and instinctively know the right way to handle it all!)
I replied that there is nothing wrong with him telling me these things, and then me choosing to do/say them. That's what marriage is about.
Then, we looked at her for some type of comment...

Her response?
"Neither of you is right, neither of you is wrong. You are just different."

WTF???

O.K., let's tell this man, who, incidentally, thinks that we do not belong together because of our DIFFERENCES, that we are just VERY DIFFERENT! And, end it at that!

So, I said,
"well, then shouldn't we be trying to find some sort of way to communicate despite these differences???

Then, (are you all sitting here?)...
When she had no real answer, I said,
"My friend Betsey said that her counselor..."
you will never know what I was about to say, because my C said,
"tell your friend Betsey that I am capable of doing my job myself!"

Personally, Betsey, I would rather send you the $95!!!

Anyway, we did accomplish a little bit- mainly a big misundertanding in which I asked H to come to my work because I am being a bit harrassed by the maintanence guy (I just wanted him to make an appearance to show this guy that I am married, and that there is no future for him (maintenance guy) and I.) Ha! That's funny. I had to specify which couple here had no future. Anyway, when H blew me off, it was just another confirmation to me that he just didn't care. But, I explained the whole story to the MC, and she told my H this guy seems pretty creepy, and that I was asking for his protection. H seemed really surprised, and said that he was sorry, that he thought I was just kidding about him coming there. So, I guess we'll see where he goes with it.

So, another hour and a half of talking....
I left rather sad, because H said I was impatient, and when I exclaimed, "Impatient? I have been showing nothing but patience for the last 11 months or so!" he got a little angry. But, then we got home, he came upstairs and talked to me, and even sang to me while hugging me. So, a happy ending, I guess.

I will try to catch up to everyone else a bit later. Time to take S11 to school, get some groceries, and go to work.

Have a good day all!
And, Bets, don't stop advising me! I will just stop quoting you (at the C office, anyway!)