What are we going to do with you? You're so wonderful and you just don't see her the way we do...
Inhale, hold and now exhale.... Ahhhhhh.
I know you feel in limbo. Crap, you know I'm sitting in this stupid canoe with you too... and I hate it too.
Dare I point this out? Because this means I now own these words....
Your H and Mr. Wonderful do not feel like they are in limbo. They are confused. Confused men do not work well in an action mode. They get angry and bare their canine teeth and occasionally they bite.
I believe that tonight will take care of itself. Rather than anticipate an agenda, why not just go with the flow and let your H provide the topic for tonight's discussion? It certainly fits well in our 12 step program as sharks--that is, giving up control for the greater good.
Woman, you're going to get your answers! And right now, your H is telling you in all capital letters that he wants you. Trust him and let go of your fears. If they come true, then you will know that they were there. But there is nothing gained by fearing that he will choose to remain single over being married to you.
If he were living in the cave with Mr. Wonderful, I would have my doubts. But this guy is really trying. I know it's hard to see this from where you are sitting, but he's not out to destroy you.
Patience, patience, patience.
You're making progress, Pamela. We can see it, so just trust the process.
Hugs!
Betsey
p.s. Here's an assignment for you: Notice and log things that your H does that make you happy. Bring that list back here and let the rest of us sharks peruse.
p.p.s. On your way to C tonight (in the car), start your session off to a good start by telling him 1 thing that you appreciate about him...
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
