Quote: I know, you’re ready to kick me because my own son can barely speak in sentences and I’m offering advice on raising yours…
Hey! I asked for the advice! I appreciate you taking the time to give it. I know I am wrong here. I promise to come up with a plan that will get me out of this problem. It's time to move myself up on the totem pole here. Don't worry, I won't let it all go to my head!
Quote: the mantra I used to get over my frugal objections to buying new clothes or taking expensive vacations with my H? "It's cheaper than a divorce, it's cheaper than a divorce"
How funny. I have actually been trying to tell myself this every time I get tense over the cost of counseling or dinners out or whatever...
O.K., one last dilemma... How in the world do I approach the "I'm not there yet" response to getting active in making this marriage better? I have to go to counseling tonight, and I have no idea what I'm supposed to cover there! I don't want to push by suggesting that we start compiling lists or writing down goals or whatever, but I feel as if I don't keep swimming I am going to sink! And, anyway...WTF??? He's "not there yet?" He lives here, he's sleeping with me (and 3-4 nights out of the week doing more than sleeping!), and we are parenting our kids together!!! Excuse me, but aren't we married? So what could be the aversion to trying to make it better? It's not some contract that means he still can't say, "you know, you just don't do it for me..." and still take off after a while. But this standing still limbo sh!t is going to kill us for sure. It just gets me to the point that I don't want to go at all. It seems fruitless. Incidentally, my H proclaimed last night that we talk "all the time!' Today's mantra? "Your friends have been at this longer than you. You can be patient, you can be patient...."
