Hi, thank you for your warm welcome. I had to order the DR book and it will be arriving on Thursday (ironically the same day at my 11th wedding anniversay now that I think about it...)

Up until a month ago, I have been 'trying' to make things work--I realise NOW I did EVERYTHING WRONG (talking, pleading, asking him to read, saying I wont give up, etc). So while he has not been living at home for awhile, i never in my heart considered us SEPERATED but rather, WORKING ON IT.

I was in lala land. I now consider us seperated.

He is in full R with OW. He has not been in contact for a week since he told me this (he told me so that I wouldnt have to hear it from gossip). Has not called the kids since he told me this either. (I assume this is guilt?)


I don't want to write too much as I understand I am still on moderation.

But right now I have basically decided to 'give in' let go (i guess this is what is meant by detach?) and actually realise this is happening for a reason. For my family's sake, I have decided to go the DB way.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home