Pamela - boy, your post could have been written by me
Some of the things I have done that have improved my R include giving the kids more responsibility for chores (still working on that one - boy, school is so much harder than it was when we were kids!), spending more on myself (my H would rather see me in a new outfit than know how much money I'm saving - in fact, when I get a great bargain, he doesn't even want to hear about it - I think he'd rather know I splurged and paid full price!), putting my own needs higher on my list - especially time to work out.
I thought I was doing the right thing by accomodating everybody else, but in the end, it just made my H think less of me.
