Hello, WAW. Is anyone there?

[sandi2]

Have you ever watched that show on TV, I think it's called "The Big Bang"? I've never could watch it all the way through, but you remind of the main character. Don't know his name, but I can see his face and hear his voice whenever I read a post you've written. I mean no offense, really. If you were to watch it, you may see why Labug said what she did.

I do not agree that you should move back home. You made the bad choice of leaving the home, but it will only make matters more hell for your kids by returning. You know it will be war with your W but you are determined, or perhaps selfishly, going there to be Mr. Mom.

I can tell you that a WAW will not want to R with a man who does that. Now, you can say it's a non-traditional M or whatever you said about the reverse gender roles, even though it seems to me that you want to be the homemaker and mother while she wants to be the career person/breadwinner/whatever and I'm not even sure if she wants to be a parent or not, but that's not why moving back won't work.

The reason it won't work out by moving back has nothing to do with your gender reversed roles, but it has everything to do with respect. In my plain and simple words, ......she doesn't respect you. She didn't respect you before and she has less respect, if possible, for you now. If you move back home uninvited & unwanted....that disrespect is likely to turn into hate and any hope of a future MR will be gone forever.

Do I think you should fight for your kids? Sure! But why do you have to do it by moving back into that house? Why can't you find your own place and have the kids move in with you? Leave her alone in her own house. You said you couldn't afford it, but yet you're willing to pay thousands and thousands of dollars in lawyer's fee to fight her while living under her roof? Sorry, but that just isn't manly. Regardless of the gender roles, some things don't change in women and that's one of the things! She has to respect the man before she's attracted to him.

IMHO, she will not be attracted to a man who wants to act like another uninvited woman trying to be a homemaker in "her" house. How could she?

In times past, I've read other LBH's tell each other to march back into the home, but I'm just telling you how she will feel, and that it will be horrible for your children under those conditions.