Maybe I should clarify. In the past, yes, I am definitely guilty of pointing out his flaws and skirting around the implication that he's the one who needs to change. I wasn't always like that and it really only became a big habit of mine when (and I didn't know it at the time) H was stoned on benzodiazepines and did nothing more than sit around and be a lump on the sofa. From my perspective, all I saw was a lazy, checked-out turd at the time. It's only been recently that he's come clean about it and what was really going on with him.
Since reading DB, I recognized right away that this was damaging to our R. So it's not behaviour he's seen in me in about 7 months. I don't know if that makes any difference.
M:36 WAH:41 M:16 T:17 D:12 SS:21 Bomb: IDLY 10/29/11 Separated same day, about an hour after the bomb.
