Stuck in a mess

[Dory]

No, not really. Most of his library is full of business-type jargon. Although he has read Emotional Intellegence, Who Moved My Cheese, The New Peoplemaking, among others...he also has his certification as a FranklinCovey trainer & consultant so has read probably (I'm guessing) all of Steven Covey's books. So he's not against reading self-help books, he makes his managers read Steven Covey's stuff but he mostly does it for carreer purposes.

So he's not against reading self-help books, I'm just not sure how receptive he would be to reading one geared towards something personal...although he did read The New Peoplemaking over ten years ago, under the advice of my stepson's play therapist. But then again, he may have only done that as a method to help his son. I really couldn't say...

Honestly, I don't know if he sees me as a fixer. I don't think so but I could be wrong. In the past I've had issues surrounding codependency and I know that he found a lot of my controlling behaviour super irritating and I'm sure quite obnoxious. I can only assume (although it's a safe assumption based on what he's said and how he's behaved) that if anything, he sees himself as the fixer and when all the flashbacks of my childhood abuse reared it's ugly head, he felt defeated and angry that he couldn't fix it. And then it frustrated him to no end that there was no quick fix for it.

I have a sneaking suspicion that he approached our R issues in the same manner...No quick fix, too frustrating, so let's D.

I'm going to have to think about it more in depth, though.

You've given me some food for thought. Thanks LA.