Alamo, I cannot believe I forgot or didn't know about the shoving stuff. That's usually considered abuse. (Certainly my female friends &I would say so-but some of my many brothers would probably qualify it b/c to them, a complete slug fest in the face seems like abuse, b/c that is what we saw growing up with a violent father) so I'm sad to say, I suppose it's relative.
I cannot speak for Labug but I will say if I had recalled the "abuse" (I only put it in quotes to avoid arguments but to be clear, it's BIG deal Alamo...)
I'd have seen your w's comments differently.
A lot of men are only physical with their wives and not their children, and it's when the w's feel the kids are threatened that they finally leave.
In your sitch Alamo, you have attributed your w's departure almost solely to the porn problem. I'm now not sure if that's fair.
OTOH I can see that if she really thinks you are a "threat" to son, she can hardly offer ANY custody to you, at the same time.
but my guess, and it's only a guess, is that she really doesn't have a lot of respect for who she now believes you to be. For some reason she's not aware of your changes. Why is that?
Can you get her to see ANY of the changes?
Also, I hesitate to comment about the legal aspects b/c I don't want my comments to be seen as legal advice.
But I am still not clear on why you don't work out custody NOW under California law. The minute your w gets to SC she MAY want to file THERE-
b /c if nothing is filed here FIRST, then South Carolina may have jurisdiction and that state will favor their own residents, and they'll probably favor HER then.
So why are you not handling this now before she leaves?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
