This is how the issue came up in MC with Mr. W. last summer. "Why do I have to be nagged into calling?"
I have noticed that even though he feels nagged (even through the separation), he now calls me on the road because I am happier upon his return.
It becomes an issue about the chicken and the egg. Perhaps if you bring this up in C, your C can find a way to help your H validate your request? After all, you're not asking for a whole lot... just some reassurance that he thinks about you when he's gone.
Perhaps if he can muster the validation (rather than attempting to understand at this point), he can see that you work smarter about getting closer to him.
Just a thought.
Hugs!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
