I remember bring up a topic of how some people want their SO to climb mountains and cross rivers to prove they (the SO) wants to be with them.
I think I read this...and someone posted a story about a guy who said if I did I wouldn't be able to do all these small things. And I think we also talked about how we place these huge mountains for them to climb which is lovely that they want to do that but then what's left for them to do. It all really struck home with me.
HeartBroken it was a cry in a good way sort of thing!
I think sometimes it's out of guilt. They may feel some twinge of guilt when they are with someone else and so when they aren't they want to spell that out for us.
I do honestly think this shift in him double checking that that I want him to come over or that I want to tell him about lab results and that he isn't prying is reassurance. I think it's a sign that the detach has kicked in and it's not in name only.
Because before our roles were jealous W who wanted him back and he was H who had a new GF and wanted his own freedom and choices. And now you have W who is not jealous (outwardly), who does not pursue, and is not pushing for more.
This is that pursuit/distancer dance that Cadet talked about I think. But I'm doing my best to stand steadfast.
