oh, that was the same stuff? I understand, then...
Well, maybe he had his "reasons" to leave stuff in his prior X's garage... and now he has his "reasons" to leave stuff in your garage... and they are just "reasons"...
As POd as I am w/ my W... I have some stuff that's still there. I know it's an attempt at maintaining a connection... because I COULD find a place for that stuff...
My "reasons" would be that I don't have room for it in storage... that I don't have room for it here... that I don't know anyone else that could store it... that I don't want to be over there and get it because it brings up bad memories...
They're all... just reasons...
I think it's interesting that you say it hurts you. And now that you mention it, it is a form of PA attack. I know it is something that is tossed around here from time to time, but I actually do not remember if it is something that MWD writes about in DB or DR.
I can imagine how that might hurt someone. Until about fall last year, my W was very vocal about a lot of stuff she was doing and how much fun she was having and what a great mom she was... and while she had me blocked on FB and would not tell me directly, I believe that as much as she could claim ignorance... she knew, deep down, that I would find out... that someone would tell me... that's just the way of the world... and it hurt me, because it was as though she was trying to convince herself, along with everyone else, and covertly me... that I was the reason for all her problems and so now that I was gone... look how great her life is...
Anyhow, even though he may just be trying to let you know that he is busy... having fun... getting on with his life... or what ever... the only thing you can do is not let it get to you. Even if he is unconsciously trying to stick a knife in you... you know him best... he may not consciously want to hurt you...
On asking your "permission" regarding getting together... that is interesting... perhaps he is trying to figure out what boundaries really are in place...
Do you prefer this method? Or do you prefer his old method?
