Sunday, I would like to send a message to WAW. You all know that I need some help in knowing what *not* to say, so I would like to present a draft here. I would appreciate anyone's opinion.
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W, I know you are concerned that my moving back into the house may be confusing or disruptive to the kids, so we should probably be right upfront about it with them. I know you'd rather not upset the status quo, but the status quo is not acceptable to me. The kids are not going to be disappointed to see their dad more often. I think we should set the kids down and say, "Kids, Mommy and Daddy both love you very, very much and we always will. Dad and Mom are still having trouble getting along. We would both like to see you each every day, and we wish that we could, but Mom and Dad can't always be together. Daddy will be staying at the house for now, sleeping in the attic like I do sometimes, and Mommy will be looking for a new house to live in. When Mommy finds a new house, you both will spend some of your time here at Daddy's house, and some of your time at Mommy's house. You will get days to be here and days to be at Mommy's, but we don't know the schedule yet." Your input is appreciated.
The parts in italics are words that I have a sense that I should leave out or express differently. I'm not really sure about the rest either.
Any help?
- All for the kids - Me:34, W:35 M:7, T:13 S6, D3 + my D15 from previous marriage July 2011 "I think I need a separation" W filed D September Currently living apart - she has the house, I rent a room