so sorry you are having a tough day, Brit. ((( )))
you are concerned about who your H really is..
but IMHO your H is not himself right now, he is upside down right now...and he is trying to find himself.
and it may impact all his relationships right now, with your S as well.
but i am not sure that means this is who he really is or will be once he regains his footing..
i am new to all this, and vets you can speak to this better, but i wonder if who he has been with your son over the years is more reflective of who he really is.. and may hopefully be again once the confusion clears???
((( )))
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13