Pamela, did you watch Terms of Endearment or something last night? And for God's sake, what's in your water? Snow filled with urine? Or is there some carbon monoxide poisoning in your house?
You need to leave the house immediately and go find a sober shark. If you can't find one, you need to go get a manicure and pedicure STAT!
Girl, the solution is within your reach.
First of all, you have the choice to say to your H (who DOES appear to love you and think about you, just not perfectly in synch with your times), "Honey, since you're going off and having some fun this weekend, do you mind if the chores slide until you get back because I'm going to be busy myself?"
Pamela, being a sports minded person, I could go where you are--about H/Mr. W. not calling to talk about the games with me. But the fact is that a football game is not a temp check.
He was very receptive to your convo the other day... or did you forget that?
Yes, I totally agree that he could call. This is grounds for bringing up the topic, not filing. And believe me, it came up in MC with us too.
Our MC said to Mr. W., "K, since it makes her feel so much happier and she's inclined to give you a cheery reception upon your return, what about calling is bad to you?"
He said, "I don't like anyone making demands of my time away." Talk about a butthead.
MC regrouped and said, "You've mentioned more than several times that you hate going away to come home to a snotty and unhappy Betsey. Well, if this is the solution to her being happy, what is wrong with you?"
I'm just saying that the stuff that really bothers you should go on a list to discuss in your next C session.
The rest of it? I would have to seriously think about it. Pamela, is it possible that your insecurity is driving you to become a mean shark instead of a nice one?
You've got SO much going for you. I would hate to take away your Fish Sobriety Award at this point.
Talk to us.... oh, and big hugs.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
