S has said that he is certainly up for coming to see me for a weekend or something. I'm going to be working A LOT so it will be a lot of him entertaining himself while I'm not around. However I would be in a great place for him to explore.
I have just finished reading "How to Improve Your Marriage" and I don't think I can bring this up. Then I am just saying "you're failing as a dad, you're failing in your promise to me and him, and you're turning into your own dad that you hate."
I've considered bringing up the idea of a set schedule but I don't think I should be the one arranging all this. That's my old pattern organizing the family, planning things, and H just showing up when and where he's supposed to.
I don't want to add any pressure and don't think I should be the one arranging their R. The whole pursuit/distancer says that.
Do I not have a right to be angry?
Should I trust that his confusion will die down and they'll come to an understanding?
He prides himself on being a "good guy" but this doesn't fall in line.
