Yes, what was described in another posters' post is how it should be done. And still, even if it was done that way, NOONE could guarantee that there isnt another email account, another cell, that he doesnt park his car at work and leave with his lovers car.
So, if your H doenst want to do the whole routine as decsribed, you still have (maybe even the same) chances to make it. ALl the above, in my mind, are a way to soothe yourself, to feel safer, NOT to stop your H from seeing/talking to OW. That's something he needs to do because he doesnt want to, not beacuse he cant. Stay strong
Focus on you, calm down, look through the BS and see where he may have a point or if he doesnt have one at all. Be realistic and decide if you are going to invest in your R or not. Explain in detail how his actions make you feel and ask him to decide how he wants to continue acting. THEN you will decide if you can take that or not. Piecing takes SO much strength and effort. And in my book, in teh beginning, it never is a smooth process. Stay strong K
