GM, I think you could get all those answers without having to speak to your H. call the powers that be and ask yourself. You know all the info they would need to give you those answers.
Think of yourself and your boys and what's in your best interest.Decide what YOU want and then proceed.
Personally I wouldn't discuss this with him until you have your answers. Maybe you feel the need to answer him, but the truth is you don't have to. Unless its a matter of life and death or very important, you don't have to do anything you don't want to. He's engaging you and making you feel bad because as soon as you get some wind under your sails, here he comes again. Believe me I know!!
If and when he gets mad about your taking matters into your own hands just tell him what I told my XH. " This is divorce. It's time we treated it as such and acted accordingly".
My XH was so damn wishy washy through this whole ordeal. It wasn't until I got my attorney and started the ball rolling on my end did I get any participation from him.
Remember GM there were two of you in this marriage. Don't forget what you're legally entitled to and do not be afraid to fight for it. Your H is fighting for what he feels entitled to through this MLC of his. You have your rights too. I didn't get much out of my divorce, but I did get some self respect back and Im so glad I fought for what I wanted.
