I haven't read your posts, so I don't know your sitch, but I'm glad that you are at peace with the decision to move on. I am also struggling to determine if I can fight for a relationship with someone who is so willing to let go of our M.
I love my H and always will, but I know that I need someone who is as committed to our M as I am. I'm not sure if he'll ever be that way, so I'm taking it day by day until I decide if I can continue DBing. It's good for me to see that it is possible to drop the rope and still be okay.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13