Finding Hope

[BeingMe]

I have succeeded in most of the 37 points. A few are difficult to address because he is away for work most of the time. One extra thing one needs to take care of (point 38?), is the financial aspects. Make sure that you protect your financial assets. 'Cause they can spend spend spend. I would like to talk about nr. 33 ... after a certain amount of time, and after trying all you know to try, I think it's okay to move on. It would be up to the individual, but when/if you do give up, don't feel guilty. I'm still here after 7 years because I have detached to a point that I don't care if he comes home or not. He always asks if it's okay, and I always reply, "it's your house too, so whatever." I am not needy, or express any feelings of love, but I am friendly to him, as if he's a guest. And, we are in separate bedrooms. I have redecorated mine, and after a time, he redecorated his ... what that means, I don't know and don't care.

Just keep it cool, friendly, and detached. You are doing great, and there have been baby steps. Don't react to those steps, though.