golf mom, When did your h learn french? LOL! We this, we that and we the other. They live in both worlds and trust me, there is no we in his future as it stands right now. It's out of habit that he is using the word "we" in conversations w/you. The only thing that he is trying to do is control you and manipulate you into doing what he wants right now. Before you do anything, speak to an expert on this stuff. I would seriously step back if there is PMI involved because you are talking about the next five years and let's face it, your h may still be on the Mother Ship during that time. Listen to your gut...seek some professional advice on this. He's not looking out for your best interest...remember it's all about "me", not "we".
His lease may be up in the next month...I would be very interested in knowing just where he thinks he will be staying. I don't think he's planning to return home.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
