I believe that my STBXW is in the same boat as maybe all our MLCers. I can't speak for anyone else but my sitch in saying that I truely believe that STBXW clearly defined herself in the marriage and felt that she was not good enough when we had scheduling conflicts during the last year and we had a baby to boot. I can totally see that if someone bases their self worth in one basket and circumstances prevents that basket to be the best it can be, well unhappiness occurs.
Unfortunately, STBXW can't or is unwilling to see that even though we had a tough year, we had it TOGETHER, and that the circumstances no matter how hard they were, are temporary.
It was easier to run away from it all, as she has done before. But it'll catch up to her someday.
Hopefully your H will explore his talents/gifts and find happiness honing those skills. When he finds happiness with his true self of self then he will find happiness with others.
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12
