The whole thing here is that of course it goes without saying that for all of us, we all thought that cheating was a deal breaker! And so did I! And when my H started his EA he knew that and he knew he hurt me and he knew I deserved better so he asked for a D! And of course at first I begged and pleaded and realized that an A was not a deal breaker, and that I was willing to wait it out! Thats when I discovered DBing.
Where everyone said be the best woman you can. The OW is a band aid. Affairs last only 6 months. GAL. 180. Forgive. Lose the anger.
Nobody said D him now! He crossed your boundaries!
And so I did all of that. Which led us to still being together after all this months. Which H even thanked me for, saying he never realized that I did love him that much to stay.
What did other people who lived through their H's or W's MLC do? Did they run for the door once their spouses backslid? Or did they just DB harder and detach?
It may work for some people, like it did for you, but I dont think it works for many.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
