I too have a hard time with the whole "Hope = GOOD, Expectations = BAD" thing, Angel. I fail to see the difference most of the time.
Am I wrong if I expect other people to treat me decently, with respect and kindness? I don't think so. I do know we're supposed to DO nice things for other people, out of a sense of thankful giving, and/or just a "that's who I am" thing, and NOT expect anything in return. I get that part. But I read on this forum where we are not to have "expectations" ... well, I say BULLCHIT to that, cuz what kind of way to go thru life is that??? I don't think I can expect a whole long LIST of things, but a short list of personal integrity "dealbreakers' in my life? like "I expect my wife to remain faithful to me," or "I expect other people to not scream at me when discussing something with me" or "I expect my children to respect their grandparents" ... these are things that YA DAMNED RIGHT, I'm gonna "expect" em!
