Had my MC yesterday afternoon with my H. The counselor was confused because he left home on Sunday and he is saying that he was very happy to leave and that he felt courageous about doing so because he has been considering this since he returned home last year.
However, he didn't realize how difficult it would. He has asked for "alone" time to think. This is what he told the MC. She asked why he left and he just said the same old line - "I am unhappy." I asked him had he ever thought about what would make himself happy. He said NO. And the MC followed up and said if he thought his happiness was solely dependent on how he felt about the marriage. He said yes - he defines himself by our marriage. He feels trapped but that he never really considered his happiness individually. He seemed to ponder a long time. He literally does not do anything on his own...
He has asked for space and time. The MC encouraged eash of us not to engage in dating, sex, or getting involved with anyone during this time. We are planning to get back together in a couple of weeks. He needs time to think. I am not confident that his decision will be any different.
I am going to try to keep busy with my running. I have finished 2 races within the last month and I have one coming up the 1st weekend in June.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
